Before you have a baby, everyone always says to enjoy the baby and that these are the best times of your life. Having a new baby is such a joyous time and there is nothing like seeing this tiny person that is the only one in the world who knows what your heartbeat sounds like from the inside. However, no one ever tells you what daily life will be like with your newborn.
I guarantee that if they did, a lot of people may have second thoughts about having children. After you have a baby, all of those wonderful family members and friends that were there with you at the hospital, have returned to their normal lives and your significant other has probably returned to work. You’re by yourself at home with baby, tired, probably still in pain, and overwhelmed. It can be exhausting and really take a toll on you mentally and physically trying to cope with adjusting to life with a newborn. Here are several tips on how to deal with the stress of it all.
Get out of the House
If you don’t do anything else, you must get out of the house. Whether you go to the store, visit a friend, or just take a drive around the block, you have to get out of the house, and alone. Don’t take the baby with you. You need just a little bit of time to breathe. If you try to stick around the house and get a moment to yourself, you will find yourself checking on the baby, looking at the mess and wanting to clean it up, and then you’ll become distracted and forget that you were just simply supposed to be taking a moment to breathe. Try to get out of the house for a few moments every day, if possible, but definitely once a week for your sanity.
Do Something You Enjoy
Having a new baby not only means that you get no time for yourself, but you also forget about the things that you once enjoyed. Gone are the days of random lunch meetups with friends or an evening of drinks with your significant other. It can be really hard to get a shower in, let alone, find time to do something that you enjoy. Even though it may seem impossible, it is important for your sanity that you do something that you find fun at least once a week. Go out to the nail salon and pamper yourself, sign up for a yoga class, or simply take a walk to clear your head. When I had my first child, I was so overwhelmed and had forgotten what it was like to do anything other than care for my baby. It may not sound like much, but in order to not go crazy, I’d lock myself in the bathroom to get a moment alone and play games online at pokerstarscasino.com and pogo.com. It really helped me destress, plus games have always been something I enjoyed.
Connect with Other Moms
It is very important to connect with other moms who are going through the same thing. Find mother support groups, whether in your hometown or online. Listening to other moms and sharing your own struggles will definitely help you cope with everything. Sometimes, it’s not always easy to share with your family or significant other how you feel, but doing so with others who know exactly what you’re going through can be liberating. You are not alone and it is important for you to know that. Meeting with other moms, whether in person or online, will not only give you something to look forward to, but it will always add a little structure to your life. Something that is probably really missing right now.
Don’t Take on Too Much
This one really hits home for me. I have always been someone you’d call a “neat freak” and someone who obsessed over cleaning. After having children, especially the first few months, I had to realize that cleaning all day long and trying to make sure everything was in its proper place was not only time consuming, but impossible. There is no way that you can keep up with the same chores that you used to once you have a baby. It’s okay to let the dishes set in the sink for the night and you don’t have to clean the bathroom everyday. As long as your house is decent and you can find the things you need, everything else can wait. Now is the time to not take on as much. Start saying no. Get takeout for dinner, send your clothes out to be washed, and let others lend a helping hand to you every now and then. You deserve it.
Everyone always says to sleep when the baby sleeps, but it seems like that is so much easier said than done. You probably find your mind wandering off once the baby is finally asleep and then you start thinking about everything you could be doing. However, instead of trying to use that time to catch up on chores or watch your favorite tv show, it really is best that you try to sleep. Get as much rest as possible because if you don’t rest, you can’t care for yourself or your baby. Getting as much rest as possible can also help combat the depression that sometimes comes along after having a new baby. So, try your best to get all the rest you can get. You need it, and remember, things will get better with time.